Perfection and growth do not go hand in hand. In order to grow, life cannot be perfect. Growth requires being uncomfortable. Let’s talk more about this concept in today’s Motivational Monday.
Calvin Coolidge says “All growth depends upon activity. There is no development physically or intellectually without effort, and effort means work.” Growth takes effort. Effort requires being uncomfortable, exerting and pushing ourselves.
There are many other transformations that happen in the world that can show how discomfort is needed to grow.
If you think about a child that grows, they get growing pains. Therefore, growing is uncomfortable. Through growth, we emerge and discover who were are more and more.
Another example of growth is a diamond. Diamonds are formed from “intense heat and pressure that cause carbon atoms to crystallise.” Diamonds are some of the most sought after jewels. Their growth and transformation increased the worth. We can think of our growth increasing our importance, talents, and experience.
Blacksmiths and Metal
Similarly blacksmiths who work with metal use intense heat and pressure to mold and create their tools like swords. Blacksmiths take a piece of metal and heat it until it’s workable and to remove its impurities. Blacksmiths use heat because “heat is also an agent of change, making things malleable so they can be worked with. It might be to stretch it, to transform its shape, or to melt it down completely to start from scratch.”
Then once it’s workable, he hits it over and over, heating, shaping, hitting until the shape is what the blacksmith desires. This is not a quick process. It takes time.
So often I wish growth and trials could be quick, but often it takes time and repeated challenges for us to grow to become what we’re supposed to be.
Lastly, caterpillars go through amazing metamorphosis to become butterflies. My understanding is they digest themselves while in the chrysalis and turn into this nutrient soup and imaginal discs. The discs use the soup to transform into a butterfly. If that doesn’t sound uncomfortable to you, I don’t know what is.
Perfection and Growth
In conclusion, we are not in this life to be perfect. I still struggle with this concept that I can’t be perfect. Many times growing up I thought if I could just do all the right things and be perfect, maybe these people would like me. Maybe I would get this goal in life. Unfortunately that’s not how life works. I’ve gotten better with remembering that, but I still need to be reminded.
If anyone was perfect, life would be pretty boring and would feel very little purpose. Perfection and growth do not equal each other. Growth gives us a purpose, a desire to become better and change. It can be exciting, an adventure. Without discomfort though, we cannot grow. We can transform and become. In this life some steps are really hard to make, but each step leads us to who we are to become. Furthermore, any steps I take in my life, I’ve learned that I can only change my reaction to a situation. I can’t change an event. Event + Reaction = Outcome…..the only thing I can change is how I react if I want a different outcome. Consequently, it’s through these events in our lives that we can experience discomfort, and it’s through these reactions we can experience growth which can lead to our outcomes of whether we become better or digress.
What experiences have you had that have lead to your growth? Most people when asked about changing a trial in their life say no they wouldn’t change it because then they wouldn’t have grown and become who they are today. Who do you want to become? What challenges might you face to reach your goals? Have you experienced these things already. Register your blog, and share your story. We want to hear from you!